Kids....

I have really been thinking a lot lately about my capabilities as a parent. Have you ever just felt so overwhelmed that you don't know what to do? I try and I try, to no avail. I feel like I am fighting a losing battle with my kids, and I don't know what to really do about it. My kids are constantly complaining about how angry I am all of the time. I don't feel like I am angry all of the time, unfortunately they receive the brunt of my moods. I try to be the nice, fun, giving mother and they take advantage of it. They refuse to do what they are asked to do until I break down and yell at them. I hate yelling at them, I don't enjoy feeling angry. Why don't they just listen and do what they are supposed to do? Why am I always their last priority? Why do they have to be rewarded in some way in order to do chores and help around the house? Where did I go wrong? I realize that their actions are a direct result of my parenting, or lack of. The problem is that I do not know how to change it, to help them change their mind sets and attitudes.
I was not meant to conquer this alone.....